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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2013 21:11:45 GMT
I'm just really done.
Like I can't get by a day without having a panic attack or feeling like I'm going to relapse
and my doctor says I should go in for therapy but the one-on-one attention has always freaked me out
and it's been really bad for a few days but I've been trying to keep quiet about it because I figure people really honest to god wouldn't care, and last night my swedish friend said she was going to kill herself and I haven't heard from her in nearly 24 hours
also I failed 3 job interviews
and basically everything's shit and I'm kinda tired of everything, like I've been for the last 10 years, but I have nobody to talk to so this is the best I can do.
Okay bye.
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Post by Picasso on Jun 3, 2013 21:38:44 GMT
Hey Rose (:
For one, I do care. I love all my members here, whether they're new or old, and I hate to see anyone having a bad day or week or month or so on. I want my members to be happy and I'd love to try and make a difference, but I'm not all that good at giving advice. But I want you to know that I'm always here to chat to. We don't know each other very well, but I've been told I'm a great listener, which is what a lot of people need sometimes. So don't feel like no one cares, because I do <3
I can't help or give advice on your panic attacks because I really have no idea what you're going through there, so I'm sorry ): However, is there an alternative to one on one therapy? Is there some kind of option for group therapy? I remember hearing you talk about how to feel better in a group (something with your meetups in London) because you don't have to talk... or something? My memory isn't so good XD However, there must be group therapy somewhere? Or just interacting in groups instead of one on one situations?
What exactly are causing your panic attacks? Is it social situations? By the mention of 'relapse' I take it you've managed to somewhat recover from this before? How did you do this originally, therapy? Sorry for the amount of questions XD
Again, I can't help you with your Swedish friend, but I hope to god that she is okay and just hasn't been online <3
Sorry about your job interviews :( They are bloody competitive, and they are horrible to be in. Seeing as you freak out in one on one interaction, I can't even begin to imagine how an interview goes for you. Unfortunately, I can only suggest to keep trying - and perhaps practice with family/friends/your pets for the interview. What are they going to ask and how are you going to respond in a way the interviewer will think "This girl knows what she's talking about!" - Try and read up on the business you're being interviewed for - look at their policy and what they stand for, and try and regurgitate that stuff in some different words.
What do I know? I haven't been able to get a job yet, so I'm not an expert. A top tip I've heard for interviews is if they ask you for a drink, always accept! A glass of water is good when you want to pause and think about what to say - or just to calm your nerves.
I hope this helps somewhat, Rose, and I hope you feel better :( As I've said, I'm always here to talk to if things get tough!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2013 3:20:11 GMT
Rosey! D8 You can always talk to us; I too try to be caring, I don't like it when my rping friends are unhappy!
Like Pic, I personally have no idea how to deal with panic attacks, I don't know what they're like - but definetely do see someone? Maybe if you go to see a physchiatrist (my dad's one so I could maybe ask him for advice for you?) or someone like that, take a friend/family member/ someone you know who does care?
I hope your Swedish friend is alright; - again I have never experienced anything like this so I can't really give you advice, sorry!
Same thing with the job interview, but there I can sorta sympathise because I'm not a particularly confident person/ don't have very good self esteem. I guess you just have to think that, depending on the job your going for, the interview is the worst/most nervewracking part of the process, and like Pic said, have an idea of what they'll ask you and how you want to answer, and how you want to be perceived? I don't know, really >.>
If you want to talk to me, too, I'm here to help; I'm willing to just sit and listen/read whatever you have to say. Hopefully thing'll start looking up soon, I'll be praying for you in the meantime though!
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Post by Hunter on Jun 4, 2013 18:45:56 GMT
Hi Rose,
I’m so sorry to hear these things, however stupid it might sound, I hope everything will turn out allright for you <3 I might not know a fraction of what you’re going through with you fear of one-and-one situations, I’m just a shy person myself and know that can be hard enough. I don’t know if it’s possible for you to get group therapy or something else, but if you choose to go to therapy, just remember that the person talking to you wants to help you getting over your fears. I might not know what could be good advice, I’m sorry, but perhaps you could try to focus about the good things about going to therapy? How awesome you’d feel if you tried to do it/overcome your fear? How you could get rid of your fears and love to shine in the attention from your friends and family, and other people you love? I have no real idea of how hard this might be, I just want to try and help. Because you’re worth it, always remember that <3
And I don’t know what you’re doing for your panic attacks, but have you tried to meditate? I know some people who have done it while under depression and I’m also doing it myself if stressed about something. I don’t know how much you know about meditating (and it might sound like a silly thing you don’t want to try out, idk, and I’m no expert myself), but you can do it in many different ways as long as you just focus on one single thing you’re doing. You can walk (first in a quick pace, then really slow, etc., do it for a few minutes where you always shift how fast you’re walking so that you’re always concentrating on your walk), you can read a book (where you shut out everything else around you), or “just” the normal breathing method where you inhale deeply and breathe out, always while you only focus on your breath.
I really hope your friend is alright, for that I’m sorry to say I can’t help a thing <3
For the job interviews, the only thing you can do is keep trying and follow Pic’s advice. I was nervous as hell when I got into my job interview, my boss could see it and asked if I was nervous, and I was like “YES!” He just smiled and we continued, and I felt much better after admitting it xD Not that it’s a thing you should go in and say as the first thing, I’m just trying to point out that being nervous to job interviews isn’t necessarily a bad thing, I’ve heard many being it. And as Pic says, they’re hard to be in, and competitive as well. Maybe watching this video can help you? It’s a woman named Amy Cuddy about power posing. I watched the video while searching for a job and I worked with the things she said – and still does. It’s 21 minutes long, and while I thought it was much to being with, I soon realized that for me, it was worth it. I really loved the video, I think she has some good points and that she’s a great and inspiring person to learn from.
I hope this can help you, even if just a little bit <3 I have to be honest and say that I might not be as good a listener as Pic and Mac – I have enough lesser struggles in my life, we all have don’t we? But I’ll be MORE than happy to crack a joke or silly comment for you to smile upon – you know how I am, full of them, all the time. Makes people crazy :b I love making people happy, seeing smiles is a true warmer to the heart. And for what it’s worth,
THANK YOU, Rose, for sharing all this with us <3
I’m sure I’m speaking for more than just myself when saying we’d love to help you in any way we can. I think it’s really cool of you to tell us these things and I hope for everything good coming your way. Promise us, promise me, and promise yourself that you’ll take good care of yourself and only give yourself the best, because that is what you deserve <3
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